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Let’s ask...

Can you trust yourself?

Are people taking advantage of you? Then you become confused & resentful?

Have you been searching for practical tools to reclaim your power & confidence?

Clarity = Confidence

Are you teachable? You wonder what I am doing ? ....Then this is perfect program for you. I have created a 16 day FB challenge that I will be teaching you your own personal navigation strategies. Hope-Purpose-Confidence is literally a click away.

Join me and many others Oct 1-22 weekdays for 30-60 minutes each session on Facebook.

Check out the quick podcast below to learn more.

Follow link below to pay and then I will add you to private FB page(must have FB to participate):

https://www.suelundquist.com/challenge/

You will receive:

  • A journal
  • Me for 16 days!

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​The Healer within and the Forever Letter

We had an amazing show this week with two incredible women guests....

But first, a quick reminder I will be hosting the Heal documentary at the NW Mind, Body, Spirit Connection Expo on January 20th and would love see you there.

WINNER -Winner chicken dinner. We had two winners already............ "We are offering free tickets to our callers over the next two shows so be sure to tune in for your chance to WIN." ..........For more information please go to http://nwmindbodyspirit.com.

For our guests today, we have two!

First we have Anysia Marcell Kiel, discussing her latest book Discovering the Healer Within.

She is a lifelong healing medium who has been able to communicate with spirits since she was a very young child. Join in on our fascinating conversation!

Second we have Elana Zaiman and her book The Forever Letter.

Elana Zaiman (Seattle, WA) is the first woman rabbi from a family spanning six generations of rabbis.

This book and the exercise is sooo important in this day and age of technology.

 

The Healer Within and the Forever Letter

by Sue Lundquist | The Gratitude Cafe

First, a reminder I will be hosting the Heal documentary at the NW Mind, Body, Spirit Connection Expo on January 20th and would love see you there.

We are offering free tickets to our callers over the next two shows so be sure to tune in for your chance to WIN! We already had two winners on Tuesday so be sure to tune in again for your chance to win.

For more information, please go to http://nwmindbodyspirit.com.

Our first guest:

Anysia Marcell Kiel, her latest book Discovering the Healer Within

Author Bio: Anysia Marcell Kiel, MFA, is a lifelong healing medium who has been able to communicate with spirits, since she was a very young child. She is the award-winning author of Discovering The Medium Within: Techniques and Stories From A Professional Psychic Medium, which received a 2013 USA Best Book Award, 2013 Living Now Gold Medal Book Award, 2014 New England Book Festival Award, and 2015 Indie Spiritual Book Award. She is also the author of Discovering the Healer Within: Use Chakras and Intuition to Clear Negativity & Release Pain released by Llewellyn Publication on 8/9/17.

Anysia holds an MFA in creative writing and enjoys sharing information and exercises via her blog for people interested in learning more about mediumship development and healing. She is the founder of the Soul-Centered Healing Method,™ a system of healing that incorporates divine energy. The healing method identifies and clears the root causes and energetic imprints of illnesses, disease, trauma, and repetitive life patterns. Anysia created Soul-Centered Healing LLC, a spiritual healing center in Toms River, NJ through which she provides healing sessions, classes, lectures, and events. Anysia lives in New Jersey with her two children, Brayden and Briella, who have the same abilities as their mother. You can visit her online at www.anysiakiel.com.

Social Media Links:

Twitter – @AnysiaKiel1
Facebook – www.facebook.com/AnysiaKiel
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/soulcenteredhealing

Events: April 22 and June 16th be sure to see her website for more details

2nd Guest, the first woman rabbi spanning 6 generations of men:

Elana Zaiman, The Forever Letter

This book and the exercise is sooo important in this day and age of technology. Please-please get connected and you can start right here... Connect with your family and friends in a meaningful way through the forever letter, a message to impart your values, articulate your feelings, and deepen relationships. Elana Zaiman transforms the little- known Jewish tradition of writing an ethical will into an important tool, the forever letter, for anyone to use. This simple and engaging book shows you not only the origins of this tradition, but also gives specific, practical guidance and encouragement on writing your own letter. You’ll discover the author’s personal stories, examples from her forever letter workshops, and related wisdom from literature, philosophy, and psychology. This book will lead you on the path to profound change in how you see yourself and others.

“More than any time in our recent history, it’s critically important for families to come together and share their love and support for one another. Elana Zaiman’s The Forever Letter offers tools, guidelines and examples for grandparents and parents to share their love, respect and values with the next generation.” - Jack Canfield, Co-Author of The Success PrinciplesTM and Chicken Soup for the Soul®

Elana Zaiman (Seattle, WA) is the first woman rabbi from a family spanning six generations of rabbis. She’s also a chaplain and travels throughout the US and Canada as a scholar-in-residence, speaker, and workshop facilitator.

Seattle event:

Book reading at Third Place in Seward Park January 10th Wednesday at 7:00 pm.

Teaching at The Search for Meaning Conference at Seattle University on Feb 24th.

Visit her at www.ElanaZaiman.com.

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The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)

Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.

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​Becoming Supernatural with Dr. Joe Dispenza

Chronic pain, Anxiety, Arthritis, Even cancer falling off a mans leg....

Seriously, people are doing the uncommon to transform themselves and their lives. Hear from Dr. joe himself, then listen in for some very very special testimonials.

Ps. Check out the image of Dr Joe waving to the camera... can you find me? Find me and email me where I am at in the image, and I will give you a free 20 minute reading to the first 5 who connect! So act fast.

What science has found these past five years (see brain scan image below too) - link »

Becoming Supernatural marries some of the most profound scientific information with ancient wisdom to show how people like you and me can experience a more mystical life.

 

Becoming Supernatural with Dr. Joe Dispenza

by Sue Lundquist | The Gratitude Cafe

The Show

Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays

Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »

Place:

Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com

Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:

1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).

Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »

Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »

More You'll Love:

If you like this, you'll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »

The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)

Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.

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How to Create Healthy Boundaries and Stop Feeling Taken Advantage Of

Are you feeling resentful, take advantage of?

 

How do you feel when YOU are met with a boundary?

Do you feel attacked, feel like you did something wrong/are wrong, take it all personal?

or

Do you feel respectful?

This is a very important question to start with and we discuss why in today show and so much more. Tune-in for some great insight, new perspective, new thoughts new ideas, and practical tools for a NEW YOU.

The Show

Time: @ 8:00am PST Tuesdays

Want to send in your questions or situation for a future show, go here »

Place:

Radio 1150am or listen live online at www.KKNW1150.com

Call in with questions or perhaps we are guided to have a reading:

1-888-298-5569 (KKNW).

Get your free 60 Second Life Plan, click here »

Learn 3 steps to taking bold action in your life despite fear and worry, click here »

More You'll Love:

If you like this, you'll love the blog post Change Your Story, Change Your Life »

The 3 Steps for You to Finally Take Action (in just 3 minutes)

Begin creating an amazing life, even if you’re indecisive, a recovering people-pleaser, or just don’t have the confidence.

Please leave your feedback on the show below!

3 Steps to Confidently Survive Family Drama, Pressure, and Put-downs

Will you be arming up and building the defenses to take on challenging family Mojo over the holidays?

We’ve all been there…

Either we are dishing it out or we are the receiver.

Neither is any fun.

So what to do when you are hit square in the head with the “boundary pushing” Grandma Eddie, or perhaps the well intended Aunty Mae prying about career, relationships, and anything else she can push her opinion on you with.

What to do when you find yourself  being “called out” out because you are not married, coupled up, pregnant or not doing what “they” think is best for you. Even more, your internal “people pleaser” meter going bonkers inside your head.

Frantically, you are trying to make everyone happy and put out the fires, and you may even find yourself shaking or exhausted, and completely overwhelmed.

Take it from a recovering “people pleaser” (aka no personal boundaries):

If you are not creating clarity with your own values and needs, you will be finding yourself in arguments or resentments because you are taking everything everyone says very personal. Not very empowering is it?

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Taking Family Time from Dread to Success

Whatever the “it” thing is in your family dynamic, you can transform your experience.

Imagine, just for a moment, being thrown right in the thick of it. But instead of freaking out, getting riled, getting defensive, or becoming the martyr… imagine coming from a place of personal strength.

The jabs that would have pierced your heart, your self-confidence, or your precarious state of calm stay where they belong - with THEM.

  • Every offensive quirk of Uncle Joe
  • Every judgmental question of why you aren’t married or pregnant
  • Every temper tantrum or personality conflict
  • Every snarky comment from well-meaning and not-so-well-meaning family

Each and every one bounced off your own self-confidence and resolve.

And you know why?

Because you know who you are, where you’re going, your value, and that their issues are THEIR issues, not yours.

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Start Standing up for “ME”

Here’s the first rule of thumb for “Standing up for ME!”

1. Awareness

Yep, be keenly aware of who you are and what’s important to you! Be vigilant in being aware of your own self-care needs, and when they are being invaded.

The first step is being aware so you can have the power to do something about it.

  • Are you feeling overwhelmed?
  • Are you feeling invaded?
  • Are you feeling unsafe?
  • Are you feeling disrespected?
  • Are you feeling compelled to keep the peace at the expense of yourself?

Keep taking a moment to acknowledge what is happening and what you are feeling. And be aware of what keeps happening so you can arrive prepared.

Sometimes, you even need to be aware of who you simply cannot continue a relationship with. Family is important, but so are you. No family is so important that they’re worth letting them tear you down.

2. Clarity

Next is to be deeply clear on who you are and where you’re going. The clearer you are, and the deeper you hold your values, the less swayed and emotionally affected you’ll become.

Really take the time to decide and feel deep in your heart:

  • The person you are and aspire to be
  • What you will and will not stand for
  • What your dreams and goals are (this does not have to be crazy making here, simply that you are clear)
  • What type of people you want and will allow in your life.
  • Who and what you really want to say YES or NO to before the situation comes up

The process I use with my clients is to create what I call your PCC - a guiding vision for yourself and your life.

It literally works to reset your brain, rewiring the neurological pathways that control your reactions, so that you build a heart and mind wired for confidence and the life you want.

Go through these questions, write your answers down, and keep them to remind yourself. Or go through creating your own PCC with a simple video walk-through with my Reset Your Compass course.

Take the time to really feel it.

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With that clarity, you are building the confidence and self-assurance to walk into any family situation and not let it break you down. You aren’t letting people make you feel guilty, feel worthless, or feel unsafe and overwhelmed.

Creating your vision (your PCC) will also creates a much needed and wanted sense of purpose. So hear me out…

Even if you are unclear and feel you do not have a purpose, creating your PCC will help you work through them and get clear. As a result, you’ll create the self confidence you need when you are faced with the “boundary pushers” or the “well intenders.”

And with awareness and clarity, you can take the next step…

3. Take Action

You’ve built the foundation, now it’s time to act.

You’ll be acting from a place of clarity in yourself and your values, and you’ll have the awareness to know when you need to act.

Most of the time, we just act reactively.

It just happens - we get defensive, we lash out, we take in the painful jabs, we give into the pressures, we ignore the red flags and the flashing warning light of our personal fuel tank… and we crumble.

At the end of the day, we hit our bed without an ounce of energy, rumbling with our own emotions, self-doubt. Even feeling worthless, a disappointment, or ready to burst into tears.

Your first act - choose to dedicate yourself to change.

Build your awareness. Build your clarity. And take action.

What to do Beforehand:

Be aware of what you are feeling, what you are worried about, and what you will find when you get there.

Get clear - review your values, your vision, and who you are. Review your PCC. If you don’t know, take some time to get clear and feel it. Say them out loud, imagine them a part of you, create a mantra - whatever it takes to internalize them deep inside and that works for you.

Have a plan of action - based on your awareness and values, what can you expect to face, and how will you choose to act in those situations?

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Ready?

OK, maybe you’re still uneasy, but you are far more ready than you were! Trust me.

So let’s go!

Now You're Thrown in the Thick of it

You arrive, and you’re with your family. Uncle Joe and Aunt Mae are testing you already…

Be aware of what is happening… what are they doing and how are they affecting you? What is your impulsive reaction as a result? Would it help you are make more pain or overwhelm?

Remember your values and your vision and which ones are being stepped on right now. Their problems are their problems. Remember your own values. Not everyone has to agree or even hear them. It’s your little secret they just don’t understand.

Choose to act with awareness and from your own values and vision….

For example, try these actions:

  • If you need a break - leave.
  • Take a breath when you feel compelled to do or feel something. Then choose to act in a way that aligns with your values and your needs.
  • Tell them they are making you uncomfortable and you’d like to drop the subject.
  • Choose to acknowledge who they are and where they come from with respect, but know that they’re not you and actively choose not to let what they say in.
  • “Uncle Joe, I love you but we have different beliefs on this subject and I’d like to talk about something else.”
  • “Aunt Mae, I know you want the best for me, but this is making me uncomfortable.”
  • Leave the conversation, or leave the room.
  • Take a moment to review your PCC, even if you use the bathroom as an excuse to do it!

Now, you’ve made it through. You didn’t kill anyone, that’s always a good sign.

Maybe you flew off the handle, let someone push you around, or someone still got in your head…. that’s okay.

It takes time to overcome these challenges. And it takes practice to build your awareness, clarity, and the right actions.

Our brains are wired from our past to react in a certain way. Changing those pathways doesn’t happen overnight anymore than you can lift 300lbs or drop a dress size overnight.

It takes practice. Keep going through these steps.

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And after the night is done, go through them again:

  1. Be aware of what the challenges were and, most importantly, what positive steps you made, however small. Even if it was “I took a breath when I felt invaded”, then that is progress! It means you are becoming more aware.
  2. Again, review your PCC, who you are and what you stand for. Reinforce them instead of letting what happened today tear them down.
  3. Is there any small actions you can still take to help positively respond to what happened? Maybe there is someone you need to have a heart to heart with in private. Maybe you need to do an act of self-care and self-empowerment.

Action is the Number One Thing You can do for Creating Your Self-Esteem

And it is the number one way that you build those new neurological pathways in your brain to improve your life and build positive habits and reactions when faced with these kinds of challenges.

When a kid learns to ride a bit, they start of terrified and shaky. They need that helping hand to get going and give them safety.

But what really matters is the action they take to keep doing it.

Every time they act, riding that bike, they gain a little more confidence and self-esteem. They also improve their ability and their actions start to become more and more automatic.

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They fall down, and the more they get back up and act to ride again, the more confident they get and more they build those skills into their muscles and neuropathways. They become stronger and stronger.

Before you know it, they are flying!

And it all becomes automatic. They aren’t thinking… “okay, here’s how I balance, and here’s how I turn the wheel, and here’s how I pedal…”

Of course not! They just do it.

That is what can happen for you the more you put this into practice.

Taking action and creating your PCC will give you the tools to create purpose in your life and foster the self confidence to be flying through life with glee on your own bike.

And it only expands… being confident to ask for a raise or to find a better paying job you love. Standing up for yourself in intimate situations, and finding a better relationship with yourself and others. Going after that big dream you kept putting off for another year or someday… (someday syndrome is a whole other subject!)

Start today. Start with awareness.

And get the help you need to achieve it.

Now, share you biggest family gathering challenge with us in the comments below:

5 Ways Thankful Acts Instantly Boost Your Self-Worth

I’m the raving queen of gratitude.

So... you know by now how important I think gratitude is.

But you know what is maybe even more powerful? The simple “Thank you.”

It is the embodiment of gratefulness. And when you use it... BOOM! You not only give yourself a self-worth boost, you give it to someone else at the same time!

It doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger or the love of your life - spontaneous acts of thanks matter. Even if you don’t know the person from Ozzy Osborne, that act of gratitude, no matter how small, will give you both a personal high and a boost of self-worth.

Can this even be legal??

Yes!!

And it’s free.

So how do you get such a confidence boost when you lay down this superpower? I’m going to show you...

1. Gratitude

Because we know creating gratitude creates self-worth. And what is thankfulness? Gratitude!

It says, “I value you.” Not only that, it recognizes that you are the kind of person someone was willing to do something for, some act of kindness. How can that not boost your self-worth?

You are taking a moment to express gratitude for someone who valued you enough to do something good for.

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2. Social Connection

Thanking someone creates social connection simply by saying THANK YOU!

It builds the emotional bond in a way that seeps through to the heart of a person.

We’re social creatures. So guess what? You end up feeling happy and connected! How awesome is that?

You thank someone else, and you end up getting the benefit through the feeling of connecting to another human being. And as a bonus, so do they.

3. Your Perception Changes

That’s right. It does.

You actually begin to see things differently as your neurons start re-wiring around that new way of interacting with the world. The more you do it, the stronger it becomes, the more you notice things to be thankful for or to appreciate others for.

Ever notice how you maybe have your eye on a certain new car or gadget, and all of sudden you see it EVERYWHERE?

Same thing happening there.

The more you look for things to be thankful for, the more you’ll notice it, and the more you’ll have to be thankful for.

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It’s like magic. The more you choose to be thankful, the more thankful things appear in your life. As you engage and cultivate thankfulness in your daily life, the glasses you wear start to change. They see more clearly the good things.

All the little acts of kindness get sharper. All the positive moments get brighter. And you see less and less of the smudges and grime that were fogging up your lenses!

Perception is a funny thing.

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4. Compassion and Responsibility

Being thankful creates space for compassion. That means not only compassion for others, but for yourself.

Yup, you heard me right - "Compassion for yourself."

But isn’t everyone suppose to be in love with themselves?

In a way. But too often, we can be meaner and more critical of ourselves than we even are of others. Compassion for ourselves releases that self-criticism and lets us take responsibility for our lives. We start to be able to look at the negatives that happen as lessons learned.

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Compassion for ourselves means we can start to accept who we are, when we stumble, and be able to see clearly enough to learn from our struggles. That is a powerful source of transformation and growth.

5. Become Better Parents, Spouses, Children

We all want to be better for those we love and are closest to. Use thanks as a tool to cultivate self-awareness and connection with your children, with your spouse, with your parents, whoever you have that life bond with.

There are always struggles and rough patches in relationships that close to you, and which we often never really have a choice with. And when it comes to our children, we know we don't always get the appreciation we deserve.

But you can choose how you approach those relationships. And just because they don't say it doesn't mean they don't feel it.

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You can choose to nurture appreciation and thanks between you.

You can shift the perception through action.

Give thanks for little things, for positive changes, for moments where they appreciated you - appreciation goes a long way to creating stronger, more positive relationships that in turn boost our confidence, self-worth, and feeling of support. Good relationships are the ultimate mental boost! Protect them. Improve them.

Make the small wins a BIG DEAL!

They take out the trash, they don’t talk back, they say a kind word, they show courage… anything can be worthy of praise, and should be.

 

Putting it All Together

So there you have it. Now it’s time to put it into action!

The biggest confidence booster is action, and when that action is thankfulness you get a double whammy. So here’s how to do it...

Be specific.

Thank them for a specific action they have done, no matter how big or how tiny.

For example - "Thank you for writing me that note that made me feel loved and cared for." The person who wrote you the letter will then get a good feeling from writing it. Then it will domino positive responses or illicit more for more. This action alone will keep both of you coming back for more.

Same goes for children... "Honey I am proud of the way you handled the game. Even though you lost by one point I noticed you working hard, I noticed that you held you head up and are respectful to the other team, players, refs and your coach. Honey that show integrity and Thank you for showing me that example."

BAM! How does that sound?

Start with one spontaneous act of thanks today...

Write a letter. Say it in person. Even a text or Facebook message can be enough.

Just act.

I want you to think of someone right now to thank. I don’t care how you do it, just do it. Thank them, appreciate them, and keep it up!

You’ll be feeling better about yourself, creating resiliency, and building better connections before you know it!

It's like a daily shot of self-worth.

Comment below who you are going to thank and why. And bonus points to those who come back and also say how it went!

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